This may look like your typical, innocent potty trainer. But looks can be deceiving! We started potty training Brooke about a month ago. She's done fairly well with the pee pee part and usually makes it to the potty on time. But she is doing HORRIBLY with the poo poo part of things. She's only pooped on the potty once and that was because I sat with her for about an hour until she couldn't hold it in any longer and I made her sit on her potty and poop. She was sooo dramatic about it. And it's not realistic to do that every day. Not for me. What should I do to get her to poop in the potty? She says she's too nervous. Emma was trained in about 3 days so I don't know what to do. . . HELP!!!!!!
Friday, February 6, 2009
A LITTLE HELP PLEASE!!!
This may look like your typical, innocent potty trainer. But looks can be deceiving! We started potty training Brooke about a month ago. She's done fairly well with the pee pee part and usually makes it to the potty on time. But she is doing HORRIBLY with the poo poo part of things. She's only pooped on the potty once and that was because I sat with her for about an hour until she couldn't hold it in any longer and I made her sit on her potty and poop. She was sooo dramatic about it. And it's not realistic to do that every day. Not for me. What should I do to get her to poop in the potty? She says she's too nervous. Emma was trained in about 3 days so I don't know what to do. . . HELP!!!!!!
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I totally know how you feel, Madi took like a year to potty train it seemed like! She still has a hard time going poo. I don't really have any advice for you, I am sorry! Just keep being patient, it will happen. I think Avery will be ready soon, she has already used the potty 5 times! So I think I am going to start potty training her soon. Good luck!
potty training was so hard for me with my first that i'm afraid to even begin with my second until it's absolutely necessary! sorry i really don't have any good tips, but i heard that potty training in a day book is really good. you do have to get a doll that goes potty for that though. good luck!!
In the words of a wise man "I never seen anyone go to college with a diaper on". Who does this sound like?
I don't really have any advice for you either - Chase only poops about once every 3 days, so I watch him like a hawk when we get to that point (it hasn't worked so well when I have been gone and his dad is in charge). Carin has made her girls clean up their own mess and that has worked pretty good! Another thing I do with Chase is I give him my itouch and he plays memory games on it (that way I can just peek in on him instead of staying in there the whole time!)! You will have to let me know what finally works! Good luck!
It is my personal opinion that potty training is the worst part of parenting! I wish your sweet Brooke much success!!!
My girls also LOVED "Potty Power" DVD!
Of course I haven't been through this yet, but many of my girlfriends have! One friend's son is 4 now and still throws a fit every time he has to poop! It totally freaks him out.
Another girlfriend ended up using a reward chart and things were great within 2 weeks. Search online, they have cute potty ones and ones you can print and she can color in to make it more fun :D
I never had a real great potty training experience. You got really lucky with Emma!. I tried every thing imaginable, but nothing worked until it was their idea. Elijah was physically ready for a long time before he decided it was the cool thing to do. When she decides its time she will do it. Until then, yeah for Mom!
Oh Cristi! I am so sorry! I know potty training can be so frustrating, I hear so many stories!
I will admit, though, that I love potty training! I know I am totally wired, but I am telling you so that you know of someone out there with positive experiences and can know that it can all change! :)
For me, potty training is the first REAL opportunity a little kid has to feel grown up and be like mommy and daddy or big sister, and THAT is so exciting!
For your sake, I will admit to you what I do publicly, but only because I love you and Brooke!
We make it fun and silly, and I made up a silly song with dancing that I sing every time a successful trip had been made to the potty. When Ben came along, even Tommy did it with Brady and I, and we all do it for Michael. It is so hilarious to see us all dancing like crazy people in the bathroom in honor of such a deed, but it works! I have never had to give my kids candy treats, or buy them expensive "singing" potties or do a chart.
But different things work for different kids.
My advice? It's all about how Brooke perceives pooping. If she is a girlie-girl, most girls see it as unacceptable, dirty, or even something about themselves that is yucky. Try to change her perception by:
1) praising her when she has a poopy diaper. Tell her what a good job she did. Try not to crinkle your nose or let any one else talk about how stinky or yucky it is. Make it something that is good about her, too.
2)Maybe get Emma in on the action. When she poops in the potty, do the silly dance for her so Brooke can see it and want it, too. Our song goes:
Michael went poo poo in the potty!
Michael went poo poo in the potty!
Michael went poo poo,
Michael went poo poo,
Michale went poo poo in the potty!
Then we all clap and yell hooray.
3) If she does poop, let her wear underwear after wards. (It may be helpful to have cute ones she really likes. Maybe even let her pick them out at the store herself.)If not, put a diaper back on and tell her she did a good job and we will try again later. If she wants to wear the underwear anyway, tell her you want her to wear them, too, and you can't wait till she poops in the potty so you can see them on her.
4) You can be a good example, too, if need be, about your experiences.
5) Be very patient, NEVER get upset or seem like you are not enjoying yourself. And don't ever try to "push it" on her, or create any negative feelings attached to her experiences.
Staying on the potty awhile is a good way to help her have time to face her fear. So tell her stories that you make up about her favorite things, or read books, or paint nails. If it is too overwhelming for you, only potty train in the mornings for an hour, then increase it longer as you can handle it and your schedule can allow. She can get tired of it, too, and that would connect a negative feeling or too much pressure and she can handle less than you.
6) If she has an accident, don't get upset or bugged. Just say, "Oh, I am so sorry! Let's clean it up and next time we'll try to make it to the potty again.
7) Sometimes kids have relapses, or they will start trying to hold it longer and then they have accidents. Let them have their space, growing up can be scary sometimes. If you handle it well, the relapse will only last a short period. And holding it longer is always a good goal. Especially when they get older and you travel!
Sorry this is so long! I'll stop now. Have fun!
I think the book I read was: Potty Training Your Baby by Katie Van Pelt?
Short, sweet, simple!
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