Why is it that we (or at least I) feel that if God loves me, He will show it in the way that I show love?
I was thinking about this book:
We all have our own "love language" or the way in which we express love to others or feel love from others. The 5 in this book are:
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
One of my major love languages is Receiving Gifts. My mom always gave and still gives gifts to express her love, so growing up that way imprinted Gift Giving upon me as a very important way to show love. And giving gifts is what I do to show love, as well.
I think I've translated that on to Heavenly Father somehow. Such as, "If He loves me, He'll give me all the comforts and blessings I need when I need them. And if He doesn't, it must mean He has forgotten about me and doesn't care if I have peace or happiness. And when others have more than me, it must mean He loves them more."
Well, I guess I'm growing up and realizing that is not the case. He gives us gifts, but they aren't always the kind of gifts we think they will be. I may want the gift of less financial trials, while He looks at struggling with money as a gift, because of all the things I learn and the growth I experience.
It's very difficult to accept sometimes, though. Does anyone else feel that? I mean, don't we all wish for sunny days and butterflies all the time?
ST Matthew Chapter 7:11 "If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask Him?"
If I, being imperfect, know how to give good gifts to Emma and Brooke in which I try to help them learn and grow and not be too spoiled, then how much more shall my Father in heaven who is perfect know how to give good things to me?
Quality Time
Receiving Gifts
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
One of my major love languages is Receiving Gifts. My mom always gave and still gives gifts to express her love, so growing up that way imprinted Gift Giving upon me as a very important way to show love. And giving gifts is what I do to show love, as well.
I think I've translated that on to Heavenly Father somehow. Such as, "If He loves me, He'll give me all the comforts and blessings I need when I need them. And if He doesn't, it must mean He has forgotten about me and doesn't care if I have peace or happiness. And when others have more than me, it must mean He loves them more."
Well, I guess I'm growing up and realizing that is not the case. He gives us gifts, but they aren't always the kind of gifts we think they will be. I may want the gift of less financial trials, while He looks at struggling with money as a gift, because of all the things I learn and the growth I experience.
It's very difficult to accept sometimes, though. Does anyone else feel that? I mean, don't we all wish for sunny days and butterflies all the time?
ST Matthew Chapter 7:11 "If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask Him?"
If I, being imperfect, know how to give good gifts to Emma and Brooke in which I try to help them learn and grow and not be too spoiled, then how much more shall my Father in heaven who is perfect know how to give good things to me?
2 comments:
I have yet to realize my love language...I feel like at times I am all of them or at times lean more to one than another. I have read that book trying to figure me out, but haven't...hmmm. Those are some deep thoughts Cristi. You and Alan have gone through a lot these last few years and have grown a lot and are so positive about it. I admire your strength.
I love this post, mainly because I have learned some of those same lessons in our time in the desert. God loves us more than we could ever imagine & He knows who He sent me here to be & I really don't have a clue. He gives me what I need to become who He needs me to be. Thank you for this post. It was beautiful.
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